but for years I have repeated over and over again these words: “I hate myself.” Usually, the next words out of my mouth are these: “I’m turning into my father.”
You must put on the new self, which is created in God’s likeness and reveals itself in the true life that is upright and holy.
Ephesians 4:24 (GNT)
My father wasn’t the worst, but he was by no means great. I worried that I would be as bad as he was. I was hypercritical of every mistake I made, fearing that I was becoming my father. Later, I learned to set aside my fears; but they continued to pop up from time to time. Sometimes even small mistakes made me feel as if I were growing more like my father.
Then one day I began to think about my life from a different point of view, wondering if every good thing I do reflects my heavenly Father. As I made the comparison, I was able to see myself in a whole new way. Now, instead of worrying at every sign of becoming like my biological father, I celebrate every sign that the image of God is reflected in and through me.
REFLECT ON EPHESIANS 5:1-2: Do you worry that you are becoming someone you don’t like? Do you ever try to be someone you’re not? Seek to be like God, who created you and calls you to live in love.